OK… So what does that mean…. Let me tell you a story……
Some researchers put a few monkeys in a room. In the center of the room was a pole which these monkeys could climb and at the top were bananas. Well, the first brave monkey climbed the pole and was dosed with ice water. The second monkey tried and was again dosed with ice water. And so on with the third. The three monkeys stopped the fourth one from receiving the same fate. The researchers then began to remove one monkey from the room, and introduced a new monkey. This new monkey tried to climb the pole to get the bananas. The other monkeys stopped him from climbing the pole.
Time moves along in the monkey room and slowly but surely an original monkey is removed and a new monkey enters the room. Eventually, no monkey that has been dosed with ice water is still in the room, but each new monkey who tries to climb the pole is immediately pulled down by the other monkeys.
There is a lot of profound wisdom in this. I continue to ponder it as I am writing this.
Ok Sure, I get it snow can be a drag, but is SURE is a pretty drag. I have been thinking about snow a LOT recently. I live in a place that gets snow and Ice. For one thing, Snow is better than ice. Snow is easier to shovel, Snow is a great insulator – the Eskimos know that. Snow is a great time if you are a kid. Building snowmen is just one of the things kids love. And can it really just be the music that kids love about the mega disney hit FROZEN? Here is a pic of a snowman that my kids made. (Notice how happy he is and I think he is waving at you!)
I mean come on people! This is great stuff! I know it can be cold, and messy, but life can be like that sometimes. I think snow is a great metaphor for living life fully and enjoying it. What I really really like about snow is it forces me to slow down. Really really slow down and take it all in. I have also found that people are more neighborly and helpful in the winter. There is a strong sense of we are all in this together and together we can thrive! It gives us a common bond and something to connect to each other with.
So last week we were having a blizzard… and while some people were worried how long it would last and if they needed milk and other staples. We went out on a back road and took the kids sled ridding. We had an all terrain vehicle with us and picked the kids up and drove them up the hill. Then some neighbor kids came out too! I can not tell you first how much snow was coming down… It was a LOT and it was beautiful, and I cant possibly tell you how much fun we were having! The kids had a blast, and so did this guy. I’m not going to lie. I went sledding a few times too and it was fun!
Snow can also help you appreciate what you have. Snow is such a great insulator, that if you take a walk in a snow storm, it is hard to hear anything else, you can be alone in your thoughts, and it really is not cold for long, your body quickly adapts to the temperature, as long as you are dressed appropriately! Sure you need to SLOW DOWN on the roads, and start paying more attention to yourself and your neighbors, but I dont think that is a bad thing at all!
Here is to slowing down and to a bunch of life lessons I learned from snow!
Heard this quote from a friend the other day and I just LOVE it! it was connected to snow and winter. If you resist it then it lingers. Much like the dreaded Math class or the despised Philosophy professor. Those classes went on for EVER, but Gym and Recess seemed to FLY by… Time is an interesting thing We all have the same amount of it, but it does not seem to treat us the same way do to our perspective.
So this is what I am going to not resist… My daughter wanted to type on my computer so here she goes!!!!!!
Today was a great day to learn something about me. That I am persistent and willing to keep trying. I also learned that if I keep trying I can eventually learn what DOES NOT WORK. Edison did not make a light bulb the first time and neither did those pesky people who invented WD -40 (it was the 40th attempt) That is very important information. You need to know what does not work.
I once was complaining to a professor about another professor because I didn’t like how they were teaching. After listening to me, very respectfully, I might add, for a long time then said, well now you know what not to do. Knowing what not to do is also very critical for success so when you are having a so called “rough day” remember that what you are doing may be leading you to the next best thing. Just promise me you will not give up.
Have a super Day! and keep finding your passion one step at a time. You are absolutely not a failure if you keep on trying!
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
This is my fear too, but I will take a cue from another one of my favorites Brene Brown, and learn to LEAN into the discomfort.
It is scary to share our fears. It is equally scary to put words to print here and see how people respond to them.
It is intersting. I was not thinking of the above quote but must have had it in my subconsious when I was asked what I was worried about and I said I was afraid of being sucessful. I am also afraid of my light. There is plenty of darkness — anger hostility frustration — to go around. I am also pretty comfortable in those emotions.It is easy to sit in the “garbage” so to speak because if you are around garbage for a while it can start to get warm and one can get cozy and relaxed. Eventually it stops smelling and you don’t even notice that it is garbage. It is easy to get good and angry and don’t get me wrong at times anger is certainly needed, but so is a declaration of honesty, vulnerability, and tact. I am working on all of those things and you my trusty reader are helping me lean into my own discomfort.
Each new year brings with it the hopes of many things. But what really am I getting ready for? I don’t know. But I can tell you I had a great day to put into practice my “Declaring Peace” and “Not getting angry” fortunes. My car is not well, and I have to go back to work tomorrow. Of course this car issue happens to me AFTER I have been home for two weeks. Yet somehow I have kept my cool. I reminded my self often today that I am not in control. It was actually refreshing. I had choices and so far I feel good about the ones I am making. So I am going to keep it short and sweet today so I can get ready for my day tomorrow. What am I getting ready for? Im not quite sure, but it sure is BETTER with the right attitude because sometimes attitude makes all the difference.
Attitude is a little thing that makes aBIG difference – W. Churchill
So I am not typically floored by fortunes, but hey, sometimes what you seek is also seeking you right? So there I was… eating my dinner being entertained by a boy using his chopsticks as both walrus teeth and drumsticks and also trying to teach my kids how to use the chopsticks when those amazing and oh so profound fortune cookies come around. Anyone notice that they aren’t really fortunes anymore?
Well, my daughter’s said “You have a photographic Memory – did you use film or digital?” So I realize just now that that fortune must be for me because I DID remember it, but I have NO idea what it means. However, mine said: “Declare Peace, every day.” and my wife handed me hers which read: “No person is important enough to make you angry.”
Hmm OK so these little pieces of folded sweet crumbliness may just be on to something… I really like the part about Declaring Peace. There is something poetic about the act of Declaring Peace. It is probably even heroic to declare peace.
So play on Walrus imitating, drum-sticking, chopstick lad, play on! Because I am declaring Peace!